Can he walk away so easily?

by Kathy

Our marriage took place 2 years ago. But after our child was born he has been behaving as if he is no longer interested in me! It hurts a lot, and I've tried my best to straighten things out. But finally, he filed for a divorce. I don't want to lose him, but can't tolerate his irresponsibility towards me and my child. Can anyone suggest to me, what should I do?

Real-Divorce Comments:
Dear Kathy,
If your husband is truly filing for divorce, then you can prepare yourself by reading about important documents you'll need to fill out prior to the divorce hearing, such as the property settlement agreement. That's the document that divides your assets and liabilities, including time with children.

Please use our attorneys page or your state page to get some free divorce advice online from real, qualified divorce attorneys. Get free consults whenever possible. And use our Legal Match Review to help you decide if you need further divorce counsel.

You can visit our sitemap for lots of articles about divorce topics, and please use our forums regularly to ask specific questions. Unfortunately, it is totally out of your hands if your husband wants to get a divorce, so you should prepare yourself mentally for the fact that you have already lost him, and try your best to maintain whatever stability you can for yourself and your child, who will most likely spend more time with you.

You can and should file the child support paperwork immediately, as your husband will be ordered to pay that after you file it (if that is what the judge decides), so you do not need to wait for your divorce hearing. Some people do it at the same time though.

As for you posting this in the contested divorce forum, you may or may not have a contested divorce. If there are any issues you are not settled on, such as if you wanted alimony, this could be negotiated ahead of time and put in writing in your property settlement, or brought up in your counterclaim to your husband's divorce petition.

You can represent yourself, as a pro se litigant, when you go to court, and have a contested divorce. It's just more to deal with and learn, but it can be done. I can't tell you if it's worth it to hire a divorce lawyer for your case, however, it is expensive and you have to factor in the cost of the legal fees to what you could potentially win IF you actually won the case.

Best of luck to you, Kathy

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